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“I think you have the spirit of husband-repelling. You are too hard, ma, you will not find a husband. But my pastor can destroy that spirit.” Americanah, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

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  • Victor the Victorious

    This highly binary type exists on the same spectrum as Odysseus, but he represents the version where the victorious party did not yet get totally lost. Again I refer to Nolan’s Odyssey and not to Homer’s poem. With the problematic flattening of female characters, as I perceived the movie. Do not get too complicated or…

  • Odysseus

    I did have mythology at school, so here I will be strictly referring to Christopher Nolan’s Odyssey, not to get too entangled in the order of events depicted in Homer’s 3,000-year-old epic. Anyway, I woke up today with a thought: some of the men I meet via apps — and whom my mom calls Oldboys…

  • Golden Calf and the Lottery of Life

    I was sitting in an office in another country yesterday, meeting colleagues for a workshop. It was a rare opportunity to gossip—the kind we don’t often get anymore with work-from-home. “Do you know why Roger left?” My colleague was taking the bait. A rare occasion to power trip is to discreetly demonstrate you know more…

  • Men on the apps are not getting any

    This writer who I went out with first right after my marriage ended, he mentioned his dream of being in a shop and he was seeing various beautiful, shiny products on the shelves. And the shop assistant showed him a beautiful, shiny, and round luminescent ball and asked him, “What do you want: pleasure or…

  • Fashion

    This guy I was seeing, let’s call him Joost, was very interesting and promising, but I noticed we were not a match when he asked me to help him choose between two khaki chinos and two green Bugatti polos… I said, “Whichever you like.” Because this is what I believe, dude. I am not dating…

  • Don’t go down that alley

    “Sanne asked me who you are dating,” Marieke said. “Are you sure? The one that never says hi to me at school? The one from the ‘Alley Ladies’ group you meet?” The Alley Ladies is the ultra exclusive school moms WA group of WAGs. The exclusivity is based on that you have to live in…

  • Oriental

    He’s sitting on his new sofa in the apartment he just bought, not too far from mine. We met late last year, just before I left town for Christmas. I said, “Let’s see each other again,” and that was a green light he didn’t expect. He came to the meeting full of skepticism. When I…